My mother passed

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My mother passed

Postby duck » May 19th, 2018, 3:46 pm

My mother passed away in her sleep Friday morning. From what I understand, her bed has been the couch for a while now. Not sure if before or after my Fathers passing. She’s been having health issues and, in a way, I believe she was ready to go.

While she was my mother, she was not a great mother. SHe treated other kids better then her own, to say the least. The house she lived in, and that i spent the majority of my childhood in, since 1975 is a hoard. The toliet broke in 1979 and was never fixed. Water was supplied by a well, but the last pump went out long ago and was never replaced. This house was a small farm house, small describing both the farm and house. Built some time in the 1860’s, it has four rooms up stairs and a bathroom, pantry, kitchen and two other rooms down stairs. At one time there were nine of use living there. In it’s current state, it needs to be razed. The last time I visited, I could not believe how bad it was. My brothers tried over the years to have her, and my father when he was still alive, relocated to assissted care. She refused all efforts to improve her and my fathers life. She also refused to allow any health care professionals see the conditions they lived in.

Now this mess falls into our hands. I am not in any kind of financial situation to get this messed cleaned up. My wife and I are leaving tomorrow to go help where we can. I’ve started a gofundme page to try to raise the funds to get this mess cleaned up. ANy and all help is gretaly appreaciated.

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Re: My mother passed

Postby duck » May 28th, 2018, 4:55 pm

So far the cause of death is listed as sepsis. No one has received the remains back from the creamatorium yet. We don’t know why it’s taking so long. My fathers remians were back ina few days, not a week plus.

We’ve had a distant family memeber, a third or fourth cousin from mom’s side, offer to take over the property, bury the waste 12’ down, remove all the teash for recycling and work on restoring the house. That will depend on what the county and EPA has to say tomorrow, the 29th. The shingles are asbestos, so bulldozing the house makes it a hazardous waste cleanup.

More to follow.
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Re: My mother passed

Postby Chris » May 29th, 2018, 2:36 pm

my deepest condolences
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Re: My mother passed

Postby duck » June 10th, 2018, 4:55 am

Back from PA and mostly caught up on what needed caught up on.
There was no will. To do anything with the estate, for lack of a better term, requires a will, but since there is noe, we have to probate one. One of my cousins volunteered to probate the will and act as executor for the purpose of demolitioning the house. The taxes were up to date and we had the county come out and re-asses the propertys value. It went from 10,500 to 500. Yes, that bad. The house is not so much as condemed as we will jot allow anyone to live in it. The sole brother that was living there is being put up by his church until he can get his own place. The dogs my mother had, but neglected went to Blue Chip farm animal rescue and are available for adoption.

The problem now comes doen to clean up, clean out and demolition. Nothing more can be down until the probate process is finished. The lone sister who has nothing to do with us might not sign the papers surrendering claim, just because she has nothing to do with us. If not signed within 30 days of notice, its the same thing as signing them, just takes longer. We had a contractor come look at the house. He believed he might be able to salvage it. However, the roof is giving way, so now there is extensive water damage to the south side. The west side is covered in wisteria. So much that its causing structural damage. Add to all this the lack of maitenance, accumulation of tradh, rodents, and waste, human and animal, its too far gone. Compounding the demolition is that the siding is asbestos shingles.

I still have the gofundme going, but geared towards dealing with the costs for the cleaning and demolition. If you can give, please do. If not, please share.
https://www.gofundme.com/Cleanup-and-De ... campmgmt_w

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